“Well, that’s what I heard. That IS what I heard.”
The words clearly accused,
clearly tried to justify decisions made,
clearly were attempts to put me in my place.
“What you think you heard is wrong. What I said is…”
“I heard that you wanted this, the one that didn’t have the check mark.”
Once more, what I said was “I did not want that one. It was not checked because it was the only one that I chose to remove. The others, with the check marks were your decision.”
That is what I said…many times during the conversation.
It’s seems so very easy to listen to bits and pieces, to pick and choose, and then -in the end- when the results are no more satisfactory than what all those words were trying to change, it is so very easy to blame when the right thing to do is simply to move forward and fix the mistake.